I posted this on the blog Facebook page and thought it was an interesting topic. So here’s my question:
If you could go back in time and speak to your past self prior to having children, what parenting advice would you give yourself. Remember, you’re talking to yourself and will most likely listen, so make sure its good. 😉
1. Follow your instincts, not a book or doctor or other parent’s “rules.” Basically do what feels right for you, your husband and your child. You can read a book or get other people’s opinion or advice to get ideas but make decisions based on your own feelings.
2. Push as hard as you can the first 2-3 weeks of breastfeeding. It’s hard, and it will feel like it will never happen. You may be exhausted, depressed and want to give up. But very soon, it will click & be SO worth it.
3. Babywear right away. Get a comfy sling or wrap and use it even at the newborn stage. And learn to breastfeed in it. Free hands are invaluable.
4. Visit the psychiatrist 6 weeks postpartum and pay close attention to your mood. Ask for help if you start to feel anxious or depressed.
5. Get out of the house and get adult interaction as much as possible including exercise, even though you don’t have the energy. Its good for you and for the baby.
Another great piece of advice from a Facebook poster Kelsey was “Consistency.” I totally agree. Very key in parenting.
Alexis wrote: “Never go back to work from maternity leave on a Monday, have your kids stick to a bedtime routine, don’t be afraid to let them cry it out for your sanity later on, and all the research and books you read about babycare aren’t as important as your own Motherly instincts.” I personally agree with these except, I have to agree to disagree with Alexis about the crying it out. But you know, that’s one good thing about parenting your own child. You do what feels right to you and your own family. And you can’t let others influence what feels right in your heart.
SO? What would you tell yourself?