Right now I’m on a jet plane with free wifi, so i just HAD to post…from 38,000 feet above California!
Butterflies are NOT my favorite. When I’m at the height of anxiety they flow from my chest into my arms and hands and can be such a dreadful feeling.
I’ve been pretty good at managing anxiety lately. My meds are working well for the most part. I’m feeling more confident. I’ve even gotten back into actually doing my hair and wanting to look cute. It’s a nice change.
So how do I, a person with the tendency to have severe anxiety in unfamiliar or stressful situations, handle a blogging conference out of state and out of my comfort zone?
How do any of us handle big work events? The need to be organized, focused, internally calm and outwardly social? I’ll admit, I’m good at being social one-on-one, and once I know you, most people would never consider me shy. But I’m not good at small talk. And I can’t remember names to save my life. Not because I don’t care, but my anxious brain is jumping from one thing to another so fast it’s not easy to focus on introductions. I will remember eventually, I promise!
On the way to the airport, John asked me if I was scared to be social at BlogHer (knowing me as he does.) I thought for a moment and realized that I would be MUCH more concerned if I hadn’t signed up for the pre-conference small group session “My blog as agent of change.” Yes, I’m excited to learn from the moderators and other attendees. But I think I’m also *secretly* glad I’ll have this all-day activity with the same women (who I’m very much looking forward to meeting) to learn and bond over our collective desire to do good with our blogs.
I’m feeling like perhaps this will allow me to find my comfort zone within the conference madness, and hopefully build a little more self confidence that I really do belong and have a home base of online-peeps turned real-world-friends to lean on.
If that’s you, don’t worry. I’m not clingy. I’ll just be glad to know I’ll see a few familiar faces throughout the conference halls and parties. And maybe the small talk won’t be so hard. We have a few things in common after all.
Do you have social anxiety? Or are you shy? How do you manage professional trips and events? I’d LOVE any tips you could share.
I think in the end, this is going to be so good for me personally and professionally. Mentally it just might give me the boost I need to keep fighting the good fight promoting mental wellness for myself and others.
Speaking of mental wellness, there are a couple things I wanted to remind you of:
Saturday, August 13th Motherhood Unadorned & Purposeful Practices Project are co-sponsoring the “Move for Mental Health” yoga & movement event in Seattle. Many wonderful instructors have donated their time to teach classes to help us promote exercise as a therapy for mental health, and to raise funds for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. We’re asking for a $15 donation to participate in each 1-hour class. For more information, visit our event Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=118002244959003 and please RSVP if you plan to attend.
If you’re not local, and would like to support our fundraising effort, please visit our team fundraising page at: http://afsp.donordrive.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=donorDrive.team&eventID=1315&teamID=23772
From NOW through the end of August, anyone who donates $20 or more to any of our team members, will receive a FREE EllieAdorn Agate Paisley Pull Mama Necklace similar to those pictured below. (retail value $18) just make your donation and then email firstname.lastname@example.org with your shipping address!
I’m so thrilled to be on my way to BlogHer today! Im hoping to manage my anxiety well, meet lots of new friends, and learn as many ways as I can to keep doing GOOD with my blog Motherhood Unadorned.