I’m just your average Seattle-area mom of two goofballs. A wife. A writer. A mental health advocate.
But I’m also a woman.
An almost-40-year-old who wants to feel good about herself. To feel stylish, even in my jeans. To feel confident, even when I’m just driving the kids to pre-school. To feel beautiful, no matter my current shape or size or wardrobe.
Now I know what you’re thinking, that’s not so easy. My postpartum belly is just flabby, and yoga pants are super comfy! Who has time to really fix hair and make-up? Its so quick and easy to wash and go. Why NOT take all of the little time savers we can, when we’re more focused on our families than ourselves.
Really I do understand. But let me put it to you this way…
What if you were feeling wretched about your self, your body, your state of being, BUT instead of dressing frumpy and going frizzy, you donned a cute top or styled your hair or added fun accessories. Do you think that would hurt or help your state of mind? If you “forced” a little style, would it actually help?
I’ve found the answer to be a resounding YES. It does actually help.
So, over the last year or so I’ve really been focusing on my self image and self care. Yes, I’ve lost some weight. But I’ve figured out little things I can do each day to personally help me feel pulled together…stylish (in my own way)…confident…beautiful…and SEXY. And I wanted to share them with you.
#1 The Flat Iron is My Friend. I know. I know. It takes time! But dang it, that 5-10 extra minutes it takes makes me feel 110% more beautiful. I’m not kidding. Its so simple, but it really makes a world of difference about how I feel. I don’t do it every day. (You shouldn’t wash your hair every day anyway.) So every 2nd or 3rd day, I wash and flat iron. I’ve been doing it for the last 2 years and I love it. Hair. Pulled. Together.
#2 Accessories are One Size Fits All. It doesn’t matter if you are a size 20 or a size 6, accessories FIT. Wearing jeans and a T today? Toss on cute shoes, sunglasses, necklace, bangle, or colorful handbag (I’m not talking expensive), and I guarantee you will elevate your style and feel more pulled together. Just as an example, this set is put together with inexpensive accessories from Target!
#3 Thrift for Special Pieces. I know I’ve said I’m a jeans girl. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want cute tops or shoes to complete the package. But like most of us, I do not have a ton of disposable income. So I shop at local thrift stores like my favorite Value Village to find special tops, accessories, shoes, handbags and dresses for a fraction of the cost. Hello! Get a whole new outfit for $5-$10 (for example, each of these items below were $5 or less). In many cases you’ll find brand name, well taken care of pieces that add a little extra something to your look. For me, shopping is something I LOVE, so I count an hour at the thrift store as self care.
#4 Never Underestimate the Value of a Pedicure. Especially during sandal weather, you will feel more put together if your toes are nicely trimmed and polished. AND, getting your toes (or fingernails) done (scrubbed, rubbed and massaged) is fantastic self care!
#5 Makeup Can Also be Your Friend. Yes, it also takes time. And no, I’m not talking about a full-on make-over every single day. But truly a little powder, blush and some lip gloss (plus mascara and lipstick for evening) and I feel so much better about me.
#6 Root Touch Up. I have grey hair. I’m not talking about a few grey hairs here and there. Seriously, if I let my roots grow for more than a month I look like a skunk! And it is EXPENSIVE to have my hair professionally dyed as often as I truly need it. (Trust me I need it. I tried to grow out the grey a few years ago and my friends told me I looked 15 years older.) So THANK YOU color in a box. For $6, I do it myself for several months in a row and then go in for a more professional dye job once or twice a year. If you see me wearing a lot of hats, you’ll know I’ve been procrastinating. 😉
Ok, so now that I’ve just re-read these tips, I really hope I’m not sounding shallow.
I truly don’t think beauty is only skin deep. I KNOW that we are ALL beautiful inside and out in so many ways. But this, to me, is more about feeling feminine again. About finding the hot sexy woman I am inside, even when I’m a diaper-changing-short-order-cook-bus-driver.
I know there are SO many other ways to help us feel more confident and beautiful (pulled together sexy) every day. So I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts and suggestions.
What do you do? How do you not only take care of you, but also feel good in your own skin?