There’s a HuffPost Lifestyle story that’s been circulating this week “23 Signs You’re Secretly An Introvert.” Honestly I don’t think its much of a secret when someone’s an introvert, but maybe that’s because I am one. You may not be able to tell because I’m writing about my deepest darkest feelings, and networking at blog conferences, and walking in fashion shows. But seriously that doesn’t mean I’m an extrovert. NOT. AT. ALL.
In fact, I’m fairly certain a lot of my blogging buddies and probably quite a few of you readers are secretly or otherwise introverts too. As I read the 23 Signs I wholeheartedly identified with 13 of them (over half) and thought “maybe” to at least an additional 2 or 3 or 5. So in the interest of transparency I thought I’d share mine with you. And I’d love to hear yours too.
These are straight out of the HuffPost piece with my own little commentary thrown in.
1. You find small talk incredibly cumbersome.
2.You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
I go to hang out with the friends I already know, and maybe, just maybe briefly meet one or two of their friends. And if I see said friends of friends one or two or 10 more times, we may become friends too…because I’m shy, not because I’m a snob.
4. Networking makes you feel like a phony.
Bingo! I am not a natural sales person.
7. Downtime doesn’t feel unproductive to you.
In fact, downtime is MAJOR self care. I need it, a lot of it. Badly.
10. You start to shut down after you’ve been active for too long.
Um yeah, again, doesn’t everybody?
11. You’re in a relationship with an extrovert.
I’m looking at you John Comes.
12. You’d rather be an expert at one thing than try to do everything.
Doesn’t that just make the most sense?
14. You screen all your calls — even from friends.
I hate talking on the phone. I’m sorry, I really do. I promise, I love you guys, really. Its just that the second the phone rings and I pick it up, my kids will invariably start screaming immediately. Text me or Facebook me a thousand messages and I will happily chat with you any time.
16. You have a constantly running inner monologue.
And for a third time, doesn’t everybody?
17. You have low blood pressure.
Yes indeed I do.
19. You don’t feel “high” from your surroundings.
Do you? Is this something that actually happens to people? Really? If so, then sign me up!
22. You’re a writer.
23. You alternate between phases of work and solitude, and periods of social activity.
Oh yeah, for sure.
Now an important question is, what do you extroverts feel about this list? Do you identify with any of this? And if you don’t is that a good or a bad thing?
I’m gonna say no, neither good nor bad. It just is.
Also, do you think that based on someone’s current mental health status, do these truths about ourselves change? Is there a continuum of extroverted to introverted with lots of shades of grey in between?
On that count, I’m not sure. For me, these basic truths about me rarely change. If my mental health is on a good swing, I may be able to summon more confidence and “fake it till I make it.” But at my core I am an anxious person, and for me that translates to introverted.
So which 23 Signs do you see in you?