Wisdom from Sensei Wu of Ninjago:
“The best way to defeat an enemy is to be a friend.”
Today as we were watching Ninjago (and I admit, I actually enjoy it too) Ellie repeated the line “The best way to defeat an enemy is to be a friend.” So I took it as an opportunity to teach a lesson. Both Ronin and Ellie have recently come home talking about kids who have been mean to them. I truly hate seeing their sadness and honestly I haven’t always know what to tell them. But this piece of advice really struck me.
I told them, when a person is an “enemy” or is mean to you, you can try your best to be kind to them. Perhaps they may stop being mean. You may even discover that you actually like each other, and may even become friends.
It reminded me of one of my own stories from high school, so I told the kids.
My freshman year, a girl Kirsten and I liked the same boy so naturally we didn’t like each other. But for Christmas she gave me a candy cane with a nice note, and after that gift we became friends. In fact, we became really good friends.
We ended up being in a group of friends who to this day are some of my dearest friends. We’ve known and loved each other for over 25 years. Here we are in high school (a couple years after the candy cane incident.)
Every summer we have reunion girls trips to spend a few days together. We live all over the country (literally) but that never matters when we’re together. We’ve met up at the beach in Florida (where we grew up), and have also been to New York City, Las Vegas and even New Orleans. In 2010, we actually lost one of our own and have been so blessed to have those memories together. We make it a priority to meet up when we can because we know it’s important.
A lifelong friendship all because of a candy cane.
So I wanted to share this lovely lesson. Share it with your kids if you’re so inspired. Maybe it’ll help them along the way.
Love you Kirsten (and all my girls.)