There are a lot of people out there cringing at the thought of another Mother’s Day. We often forget this fact as we ‘re splashing the latest gift ideas or celebrations for moms across the Internet. Not everyone wants to celebrate or even feels worthy of a celebration, and I think that’s OK. Just like Valentine’s Day, or Father’s Day or any other “day” designated to celebrate a group of people, we don’t “have” to acknowledge it. We can pass the day by with no shame or guilt in my opinion.
And because many of you may not have thought about it, I wanted to share and HONOR a list of people who just might be wanting to skip Mother’s Day all together. People who actually may be deeply struggling this Mother’s Day. (And if you are, please reach out. The Lifeline number is 800-273-TALK (8255).)
I see you…
Moms who have lost children…to suicide, miscarriage, accident or physical illness. This day is just not the same without your children.
Children who have lost moms. This day is just no the same without your mother.
Moms suffering from a postpartum mood disorder or a chronic mental illness who may feel unworthy of a Mother’s Day. (P.S. Your depression in LYING to you. And please go now to Postpartum Progress for the Mothers Day Rally for Moms’ ‘entail Health. Trust me it’s worth it.)
Birth moms who have placed a child for adoption. I know you will never forget.
Empty nester moms or moms who live far from their children, who rarely if ever see their kids.
Moms who are struggling with infertility. Even if you have yet to get your miracle, you are already a mother in your heart and in mine.)
Moms with children with special needs. Motherhood can be such a struggle even without these challenges.
Preemie Moms who’s children are not at home (or Moms who have PTSD from a NICU stay)
Military moms with spouses or children on deployment. I thank you for your family’s sacrifice.
Moms who have lost their partners and are going it alone.
Moms “created” by the loss of their child’s natural parent, whether by accident, disaster, crime, sickness.
Moms who have been abused.
For all of the moms (and kids) struggling this Mother’s Day, I want you to know that you are not alone.
Did I miss anyone? I’m hoping to be as inclusive as possible so please let me know if there is anyone I should add. Thank you.