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Talking to Kids about Emotions {Inside Out Feelings Flash Cards}

Filed Under: Entertainment, Free Printables, Kids Activities, Mental Health, Motherhood

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Talking to Kids about Emotions, Printable Feelings Flash Cards Inspired by Inside Out #PlayNGrow AD

The past couple of weeks Ronin’s little league baseball team was in the playoffs. The season definitely started with some strong emotions on both of our parts, being his first year playing. But he ended up LOVING it. And as the kids got into a groove and gelled as a young team things started to get really exciting. They were winning against teams they had lost to in the regular season. And what a joy seeing him get hits almost every at-bat, when he started the season with strike outs every time. Each and every kid on his team was doing well, trying so hard and never giving up. It was so much fun to watch! 

Bruins Little League Baseball

But with each new team they faced in the playoffs, Ronin mentioned how scared he was to play because “they beat us before!” And even though they won enough games to be guaranteed the second place spot in their division, he was still freaking out before what would be their final game, a game against a team that had only lost one game all season long. 

As his emotions unraveled the night before, I found myself a bit lost with how to handle it. He’s so much like me in so many ways, particularly with his anxiety. We might not look it on the surface, but there can be an emotional roller coaster going on inside.

It started with “Mommy, I’m scared to play the Cougars.” I could see the emotion swelling in his little seven-year-old face. I felt his heart pounding as he leaned up against me. I tried to talk him through it, remind him of how well they’d been playing, how even though they never beat this team before, he just had to do his best and have fun. But it wasn’t really working.

We walked upstairs to get ready for bath and he kept bringing it up. “I’m really scared to play the Cougars.” I tried to reassure him but he started to get angry. The anxiety seemed to overwhelm him and he started to throw things, and even throw a ball at me. 

Kids Emotions Anger #PlayNGrow

Of course then I got mad and held onto his shoulders as he struck out at me (more from anxiety than Anger) and I yelled. I’m never proud when I yell, but let’s face it, it happens. I was really getting frustrated with him, and with myself for not knowing how to handle the obviously emotional situation.

But then we looked at each other square in the face and both started laughing. The tension between us released. 

He jumped into the bath but the anxiety talk continued. It finally occurred to me that he may not realize that even if they lost to the Cougars, they were still going to be second place and the team would get a trophy. He’s very into medals and trophies and has always wanted to earn one. As I spoke the words, you should have seen the transformation on his face. 

And then he burst into tears. Ahhh!

I was like “Wait! What?! Why are you crying!?” 

He broke off crying for just a moment to say “It’s liquid pride … and I can’t stop!” Hahaha! We all laughed so hard after that one, a term he learned from My Little Pony meaning that they were happy tears. 

They ended up losing the big game 21-20, but boy did they play great. I’m just so very proud of Ronin and his whole team of really terrific kids. 

A few days later, I was talking to Ronin and Ellie about how we would be seeing a screening of Inside Out before it’s out in theaters. They’d seen several previews on the iPad and were excited to see it. I had also bought some Inside Out toys at Toys “R” Us and of course that motivated several discussions about emotions, since the main characters (and their little action figures) are named after feelings. There’s Joy, Sadness, Fear, Anger and Disgust. 

Inside Out Core Figures Toys R Us #PlayNGrow

As the kids asked me exactly what each of the words/characters meant, I realized that I had a perfect example of several emotions wrapped up in one recent event. That incident with Ronin and his baseball game. As babies, Ronin and Ellie’s emotions were always one-note. They were happy. They were sad. They were mad. But as they’ve gotten older, more often than not, multiple emotions wrap up in one big knot, and that’s hard to explain or help them navigate.

I used the example from above to show Ronin how his fear of playing the Cougars also made him mad, but then he became happy once he realized they had already done so well and would be getting a trophy no matter what. The emotions started to make more sense to him. I know they’ve studied feelings in school, but I think this is something that we have to keep talking to our kids about, because feelings and emotions become more complex. And as time goes on they may be afraid to talk about it if we haven’t started that conversation early.

We did get to see Inside Out this week (review here) and let me tell you, we’ve had several more of these great conversations about feelings.

Theater with Family for Inside Out

Ellie now knows exactly what Disgust is! “When you see a slug, that’s Disgust! Ewww!”

Kids Emotions Disgust #PlayNGrow

This morning on the way to school, she asked me who my favorite character was from the movie. To her surprise, I said Sadness. I explained that Sadness is important because when we’re sad, that brings us together with the people we love. We can share our Sadness with our friends and family and they’re there for us, and we become closer because of it. She instantly pulled out an example from Inside Out. “Mommy, like when Riley…” (I won’t give you the spoiler!) But I was so impressed that a 5-year-old would not only grasp the concept but even know the perfect example from a film she just saw two nights earlier. 

Kids Emotions Sadness #PlayNGrow

Ironically, Ellie was actually truly feeling Sadness in this pic because her last day of Preschool was just over when I took it. I had seen some angry faces from her too. Her emotions were a bit of a roller coaster because she knows she won’t be going to Kindergarten with her preschool friends next year. But it was so much easier having that Sadness/Anger discussion with her because it’s so fresh in her mind and we have their new flash cards and Inside Out toys to help. 

My Free Printable Emotions Flash Cards Inspired by Inside Out are available for download here:

Inside Out Emotions Flash Cards Anger Joy Sadness Fear Disgust 

Free Printable Feelings Flash Cards inspired by Inside Out for talking to kids about emotions #PlayNGrow AD

The flash cards are Ellie and Ronin approved. Ellie helped me take the photos and Ronin proofread the copy. He’s getting so good at reading, my big almost 2nd grader. I printed mine on 5 x 7 photo paper so they’re a heavy glossy card stock. 

I’ve also got several other Inside Out printable kids activities here including a maze, coloring pages, a printable board game and even nail manicure art! 

Or you can buy the set of Inside Out Figures we purchased at Toys “R” Us and use them as a jumping point for discussing your kids emotions. Having the word tied to the visual of a character has brought our feelings discussions alive.

Toys R Us Inside Out Toys #PlayNGrow AD

How do you talk to your kids about their emotions? Do you use toys to help?


Related posts:

  1. Top 3 Reasons to See Disney Pixar’s Inside Out {Plus Printable Kids Activities}
  2. The Ultimate Inside Out Fan Gift Guide
  3. Printable Board Game Inspired by HOME The Movie {Review and Kids Activities}
  4. Talking to Kids about Mental Illness

About Cristi Comes

Warrior Mom. Wife. Writer. Passionate advocate for motherhood and mental health, self care and positive self image. Lover of tech, travel, books and entertainment.

Comments

  1. Summer Davis says

    at 1:38 PM

    Cute flashcards! I need to download them for my kids. Madilyn had an extinction-level-event hissy fit yesterday, and Grady has been becoming increasingly frustrated and mad at just LIFE, which makes it difficult to get my work done. I’m so flustered right now I can hardly see straight! Kids are cray, aren’t they? #client

    • Cristi Comes says

      at 1:41 PM

      The end of school can really throw them for a loop! Yes it’s exciting to be FREE but all that change and missing friends too.

  2. Anne-Marie says

    at 11:14 AM

    I love this, and your review, but mostly the way you talked to Ellie about sadness. My kiddo has just started looking at our faces for signs of emotion. “Mama happy?” when I’m smiling. It is hard to know what’s best for each stage of development! When Ellie is grown-up and understands the work you’ve done to help people who feel sad (among other things!), she will be so proud that you knew how to share that part of yourself.

    • Cristi Comes says

      at 11:25 AM

      Thanks Anne-Marie. It really is hard to know what’s the best way to talk about these things for each stage. For the longest time though I’ve tried to be open about when Mommy is “sad” as a way to get the conversation going about my depression. It’s so incredible seeing them grow and learn these things, isn’t it? Walt is at such a sweet age.

  3. Heidi BK Sloss says

    at 8:53 AM

    Love your story about your son’s journey through fear and anxiety. What a smart and insightful boy he is. Liquid pride is a great expression! And your post had prompted my interest in the movie. Sounds like one I will enjoy (even though my kids are grown and no grandkids in sight).

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