So many men and women are suffering in silence for many years. They have the strong desire to be loving parents yet cannot make their dream come to fruition. It’s the ultimate lack of control. You make a choice for your future and cannot, no matter what you try, achieve that goal quickly. It often leads to depression, anxiety, weight gain or loss, loss of friends (who’ve easily moved on, gotten pregnant and just don’t understand), and many other problems.
It’s SO unfair when incredibly loving people cannot easily give that love to a baby. But unfortunately, no one ever said life is fair.
One such couple, who struggled for many years are dear friends of mine, Jeffrey & Lara Mark. Lara’s story of infertility is a Guest Post on this blog from January. They did get their first miracle, their 15-month-old daughter Kylie, after a very long road of 3 surgeries and 5 IUI fertility treatments. Doctors said it was an absolute miracle that she finally got pregnant and delivered a healthy, although premature baby. And they are such amazing parents.
This couple then wanted to complete their family with a second child. And for anyone suffering with secondary infertility, you know, even though you have one child, if you want more, your life and family does not feel complete. It is just as devastating. Lara thought that after having Kylie, maybe it would be easier to get pregnant with a second right away…boy was she wrong.
Unfortunately, after posting Lara’s story on my blog, she received some heartbreaking news. Doctors determined that Lara was going through peri-menopause at the early age of 35, and has experienced a re-occurrence of several infertility symptoms. With a second opinion, new doctors confirmed she is actually going through menopause, ending their chances for more children; at least biologically.
Jeffrey & Lara currently live in Castle Rock, Colorado where they have lived for almost five years. Jeffrey grew up in Boulder and is the oldest of 4 siblings. He has a large and extended family. They often get together for birthdays, holidays, sporting events, and just because they love to. Lara was born in New York City, but spent most of her adolescence in Miami, Florida. Lara has one older brother. The couple is fortunate to have both of their parents still happily married.
In 1997, they met at the University of Colorado, and became friends. They went on their first date in October of 2003, moved to Las Vegas together, and got engaged in 2005. In May 2007, they married in Boulder and began the process to have a family right away.
Jeffrey currently works for a private real estate development and investment company and Lara is a stay-at-home mom, teacher, role model and mentor. She also started a few small businesses from home and gets to work on them in her spare time.
After Lara’s recent diagnosis, they decided to start the process of growing their family via adoption, which they believe will be equally rewarding. Jeffrey said, “We have begun our journey to bring another child into our lives by researching all of our adoption options. While this process is somewhat scary, we trust that God will lead us in the right direction. We count the days until we can call another miracle of God our child.”
They have started the adoption process and are diligently searching for an addition to their family. They have learned the most effective way to find a baby to adopt is through word of mouth with the help of family & friends. Over half of adoptions are Designated Adoption, which means a couple finds the birth mother through “someone who knows someone who is pregnant and wants to place her baby for adoption.”
So, they are currently working on “publicizing themselves” via social media and through friends, family members, doctors and the Churches they attend. They have created a Facebook page called “Jeffrey & Lara Hope to Adopt” to help get the word out. Lara also has a beautiful blog chronicling their experiences with infertility, as well as featuring the arrival of their little baby miracle, Kylie.
Please keep your eyes and ears open for this terrific couple, “like” their Facebook page and if you hear of a birth mother hoping to place her baby for adoption with a wonderful family, please let Jeffrey & Lara know. Their second child will be blessed to have them as parents and to have a sweet sibling as well. What a beautiful family they will make.
Thank you for reading.